Why You Need to Forget Positivity, Keep Your Ego and Embrace Your Darkness | Wake Up World
Many people talk about going “beyond the ego,” losing it and portray it as something evil. The reality is that our sense of self is essential for the development of our individuality and is not innately “bad.” Our ego is necessary for our survival as it causes us to see that our physical selves are separate from others, and therefore we must care for ourselves.
By trying to lose our egos, or by thinking of them as solely “illusions,” we run the risk of developing a deep sense of futility with life, a pointlessness in doing anything or relating to anyone (e.g. “I don’t exist so what’s the point of doing anything?” or “Others don’t exist either, so why bother “forgiving” or cultivating deep relationships with them?”).
It is necessary to realize that transcending your “self” firstly implies developing a healthy and functional ego that operates in the world harmoniously. To create a harmonious ego, we first need to develop inner wholeness by healing our core wounds and Shadow Selves, establishing strong self-esteem, forgiving others, and coming to terms with what has happened to us in the past. Our egos will always be there, but the difference is that when they are healthy and when we are aware of their existence, we stop listening to them and blindly allowing them to influence our decisions or actions.